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Penn Yan Public Library 1 362.82 LAM Adult NonFiction Book

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A controlling or abusive partner can break even the strongest woman. Written by an expert in domestic violence and based on her highly successful recovery program for women with controlling partners, this book will give you the strength you need to finally stand up for yourself or leave the relationship, once and for all.If you have a controlling partner, you aren t alone. Millions of women suffer physical or sexual abuse at the hands of a husband or boyfriend during some point in their lives, and research shows that psychological abuse a bigger contributor to inducing fear affects women s overall well-being as much as physical abuse, and it can be a precursor to violence. To make matters worse, having a controlling partner often results in anxiety, depression, trauma, and low self-esteem. So, where can you turn for help?Based on over a decade of clinical and domestic violence research, You re Not Crazy He s Controlling! will help you identify the psychological constraints that can be predictive of domestic violence, recognize the harmful effects of abuse on your mental and physical health, and gain the power to break free. Using the author s three-stage recovery model, you ll be empowered to move out of denial, deconstruct what holds you hostage, and take back your life.Psychological and physical abuse can be devastating, and having a controlling partner can make you feel as if you re the one responsible. But you re not crazy, and it is not your fault! With this important, one-of-a-kind guide, you ll finally find the clarity of mind, courage, and strength to put an end to the abuse that damages your mental and physical health, and move toward a happier, safer life

Author Notes

Carol A. Lambert, MSW, is a psychotherapist and domestic violence expert with decades of clinical experience helping individuals and groups. She is in private practice in Belmont and Concord, MA, and provides domestic violence consultation at the Harvard-affiliated McLean Hospital.

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Lambert, a psychotherapist with over 30 years of domestic violence expertise, has written a guidebook for women who suspect their boyfriend or spouse's behavior is controlling. She explains in depth components of psychological abuse and how low self-esteem feeds into the pattern beginning with small exploits and continuing with controlling tactics and possible physical harm. Lambert depicts numerous scenarios and repeated behaviors that indicate abuse and affirms readers' rights to be treated with respect. She provides exercises for building strength and countering domineering tactics. A wealth of websites and battered-women hotlines are included in the appendixes. VERDICT A poignant and necessary book for all women who live in fear in their own homes. © Copyright 2016. Library Journals LLC, a wholly owned subsidiary of Media Source, Inc. No redistribution permitted.

Table of Contents

Introductionp. 1
1 Control in Relationships Causes Hidden Injuriesp. 9
Stage 1 Become Aware-Recognize the Problem
2 Realize You Need Helpp. 26
3 Take a Close Look at Your Partnerp. 39
4 Overcoming Powerful External Influencesp. 57
Stage 2 Deconstruct What Holds You Captive- Breaking Free
5 Dating: What You Didn't Know About His Behaviorp. 74
6 From Dating to Commitment to Confinementp. 85
7 Resist Falling into the Cycle of Abusep. 93
8 See How Life Becomes "All About Him"p. 114
9 Take Back Your Strengthsp. 128
10 Threats and Physical and Sexual Violencep. 142
11 Recognize Your Injuries from Abusep. 159
Stage 3 Reclaim Yourself-Only You Know What's Best for You
12 Change Beliefs to Feel Strongerp. 178
13 Empower Yourself-Take Back Your Lifep. 189
14 Moving Forward-What Do You Want?p. 199
Acknowledgmentsp. 215
Resourcesp. 217
Referencesp. 223

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